Forgetting and Forgiving

Here is a verse of an Irish Blessing.  If you’ve ever read Irish blessings before, you know that the Irish have a remarkable way with words.

Always remember to forget
The friends that proved untrue.
But never forget to remember
Those that have stuck by you.

Always remember to forget
The troubles that passed away.
But never forget to remember
The blessings that come each day.

It’s interesting about forgetting…there are some things and people most of us have forgotten in the true sense of the word.  But I think that most of us can say that friends who’ve done us harm, or real troubles that have plagued us at one time or another still remain on file somewhere in our consciousness – pulled out to review at the most inopportune moments.

So perhaps the best way to forget is to forgive.  Forgiveness covers a multitude of ailments, don’t you think?  And forgiveness isn’t saying, “It’s okay”, but rather it’s a maturing in the understanding that ‘stuff’ happens; that people aren’t Christ-like until they realize that being that way is an actual possibility and decide to embark on that journey; and that misunderstandings are as common as reality shows.

It’s the releasing ourselves of all the icky feelings that accompany a less than pleasant memory.  It’s the ability to put the past behind, and allow ourselves to invite all the possibilities that good emotions can bring to the well-being of our minds, bodies, and every aspect of our lives in this present moment.

We can’t always completely put something out of our memory, and perhaps we shouldn’t want to – after all, memory has it’s place and purpose in our lives.  But when forgiveness takes place one’s breath becomes deeper, one’s mind becomes clearer, and one’s body becomes healthier.

And where do we begin?  With learning the art of forgiving ourselves.  From the most minor mistakes to the most disastrous.  If we love ourselves, we must forgive ourselves…and that gives us clear sight to see the world around us, and is the beginning of a whole new and wonderful life.

Until next time, may happy days abound!


Above image from the oil painting: Resign, Refresh, Restore by Marianne Coyne


5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Yesteryear Embroideries
    Aug 29, 2015 @ 03:04:09

    Such a lovely and heart warming post Marianne! Your words ring so true as to how we should forget and forgive.



  2. Marianne
    Apr 20, 2011 @ 14:19:22

    Such wonderful words of wisdom and open dialogue from such wonderful ladies…thank you for sharing yourselves…You all open my eyes to the wonderful world of Love.

    hugs and kisses to every one of you…Marianne



  3. Brenda
    Apr 20, 2011 @ 13:34:19

    I always remember to forget that I am getting much older. But I never forget to remember those that God has put in my path on this journey. He sends the right people at the right time. There are so many ways that He can reach us, teach us, love us through others. He has given you some great words of wisdom and its up to us to put them in practice. It’s amazing when we do so, our Beings are lifted and set free. Forgiveness is good for the soul. When we carry our burdens around its like carry a huge bag of trash everywhere we go. Its heavy, it causes us to be sick, and we can’t really enjoy life for carrying such a heavy load. But if we take that big heavy load right to God’s landfill and throw it as far out as we can, we will not be able to recognize our own heavy load; we will not be able to pick it up again and will have to leave with God. I used this visual a long time ago and have never pick it up again. I was set free. I really love your blog, Marianne. I love that there’s a Leisure Lane!



  4. Lynn at Cottage and Creek
    Apr 20, 2011 @ 13:09:01

    Your post is beautiful, Marianne. I am learning so much from you!! The Irish Blessing is lovely and the sentiment so freeing. I think I’ve been on this path for several months now … the letting go of the hurts and loving those who have done the hurting. It is as you say – healing in body, soul, and spirit. Thanks for sharing such encouraging words. Your writing and artwork is refreshing and inspiring. Your painting is beautiful. God has blessed you richly and I’m delighted I’ve met you and can share in His blessings.
    xo … Lynn



  5. Susan
    Apr 17, 2011 @ 16:09:14

    such a beautiful and heartwarming post by you, marianne, the painting that you made is beautiful too, it’s like something that i envision myself doing if i ever found such a place, tranquil and in nature. I do love what you wrote, i too always reminded by words such as in order to love others, you have to love yourself too (that’s something i still am learning) and in order to forgive others, we have to forgive ourselves …it’s all begin within ourselves, how can we make peace with the world or others if we’re not in peace with our own mind and heart and body? yes i love your words and it makes me remember again and something i love to do when i meditate 🙂

    Blessings, Susan



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